As a travel blogger, I realize that we do somewhat of an injustice to real life in this forum on the internet, we share gorgeous photos of incredible destinations around the world, the most beautiful corners of our homes, or unique views of our home cities. And while it may seem to everyone else that life is a beautiful little slice of paradise where nothing ever bad happens and everything is constantly picture-perfect, that’s a huge disservice to the world and to our communities and to ourselves. We’ve all been there, scrolling through our Instagram feed which feels more and more curated these days, where people we follow seem to be living a dream life without the huge to do lists, never ending errands and personal issues that plague most of us on a daily basis.
But here’s the deal: don’t believe everything you see. We have to be able to distinguish between real life and someone else’s highlight reel. And yea, there are moments in my life that feel like magic, times when I’m traveling or at home and everything seems to fit into place and I think to myself “this is amazing.” But that’s about 5% of my life – the other 95% is working late, to do lists that never seem to end, errand after errand, chore after chore, trying to keep up on my DVR and hustling so I can afford to keep traveling or chasing those dreams on the horizon.
For me, in all honesty, the past few months have not been a highlight reel. And while yes, we’ve taken multiple trips in that time and a lot of it has been wonderful, behind the scenes you don’t always see all else that’s going on. Between insane amounts of work and deadlines that have had me working very long hours in the evening and on weekends and while traveling, to family issues that I don’t always share, home maintenance issues costing more than anticipated and dealing with the IRS on some mistakes our old accountant made years ago, we’ve definitely not had a smooth ride of it as of late. And I’m not telling you all this for any other reason other than I’m right there with you. Real life isn’t always glamorous or easy or beautiful, sometimes it’s straining and tiring and feels like everything is flying at you at all times and you’re just trying to your best to not get hit. There have been moments when I really did seriously consider just selling everything I own and moving to a little horse farm in the middle of Iceland to get away from it all.
But here’s the thing – even in those times when we feel like our lives aren’t what they should be or what we’d like them to be, there are moments when I look around and realize how very beautiful this life is however chaotic or crazy it might seem or how un-Instagram it might feel. So the next time you’re feeling like someone else’s highlight reel is how your life should look, just remember that they aren’t showing you everything. And since I don’t think the idea of social media is changing anytime soon, we still have to make a conscience effort to not compare ourselves to someone showing us only 5% of their life and we have to remember that we’re all going to struggle sometimes, we’re all going to go through things in life but at the end of the day, if you can look around and take it all in, breath and keep going, that’s all that matters.
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Selina says
I totally agree with you. even though those pictures we take and things we write about beautiful places inspire people, they are not perfect representation of reality.
Everyone should know that and take it as point of inspiration…
Thanks for sharing, its a great post 🙂
Casey says
Totally!
Lucy Williams says
Love the honesty in this article! Noboby really knows what happens behind closed doors. Thank you for sharing. Take care : )
Lucy x
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Casey says
Thank you! I’m so glad it was worth sharing 🙂
Laura Alejandra says
It is so easy to compare yourself to others–the grass is always greener on the other side, and all that. I feel that even if we do know this rationally we just can’t feel but feel inferior to others who have achieved more than us, traveled more than us.
Casey says
It’s all about just figuring out what’s important to you and your life and being happy with that instead of looking elsewhere I guess. It’s super hard, especially with so much social media, but so important!
Diana Maria says
What a wonderful post. I think this is something we really need to remember. I constantly compare my life to those online, and I forget that I often only post my highlight reel too. I think it’s important to sometimes show the behind the scenes, so people can realize it isn’t always glamorous. We all have our own things to deal with in life, no one is free of that-
and that’s okay! Thank you for sharing this, it was a lovely read xx
Sending light & love your way,
My Lovelier Days
Casey says
Thank you! And yes, so true. We’re all dealing with our own stuff, even if we don’t always show it and that’s ok, but well worth remembering!
Charlotte Poon says
So nice to get that reminder not to fall in love with everything we see and think and expect it as reality! Thank you for sharing!
Charlotte
http://www.deconstrut.com
Casey says
Totally. Reality is always there no matter what, we just have to learn to remember that everyone has something that isn’t super glamorous!